Why aren't you married yet? (At 34)
Why aren't you married yet? (At 34)
One of my best friends is 34 and single. He has a great job and plenty of money but he can't seem to find the right person. Is their anything wrong with being single at 34? He says he dates all the time but he never brings girls around to meet any of his friends. Is he gay? Yes, I've asked. He says he's not. Do I believe him. I have known him for twenty years so I think I would know but maybe not.
He will only date Jewish women too. He's limiting the playing field but he told his mother before she died he would only marry a Jewish girl. Talk about Jewish guilt. I thought us Catholics had it bad. Do I try to convince him to date other women? Or just let sleeping dogs lie. Plus he is the only one out of our group of friends that hasn't gotten married, making him a third, fifth, or even seventh wheels all the time.
Should I as a friend be concerned?
Triumph
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Post a CommentI don't think so. It's better for him to date and be cautious than to get married just so he isn't the odd one out. Have you ever met any of his dates? Did you give him reason to not want to bring more around? (Telling embarassing stories about him/ giving him or her a hard time/ acting like drunken idiot friends? )
When my dad was dating my step mom he didn't bring her around until he was more serious with her; maybe your friend just doesn't want to bring around too many girls.
No, no concern. I have soo many guy friends who aren't married yet that are in their mid-thirties. At least he's not marrying someone for the sake of getting married then divorcing a year later. Guys are slow too
Sometimes it takes a while for them to
know what they want.
Nah, he has to find it on his own, Inroducing him to anyone u know or ur wife knows could pose a problem if things dont go well. He will find it eventually and sometimes.. sadly some people arent meant to marry.
Some people like being on their own..he may or may not find the right person for him..unless he is becoming suicidal about it don't worry about him. I didn't get married until 30.. I wasn't panicked about it. I was just waiting for the right one..maybe he is too.
I think the older men get the harder it is for them to settle down because their standards are so high at this point. My cousin is exactly like that but he's definetly not gay he's just soooo picky! And he's 34 too.
Griffin - I think its so sweet you're concerned about this. I agree with honeysugar and I think its the same for women. You get really settled in your ways and it becomes more and more difficult to integrate a person into your life. Now he just has to meet exactly the perfectly perfect person.
It'll happen, I'm sure.
If you know any nice (Jewish) girls that you think would be a good match with him, go ahead and introduce them. The only other thing you can really do is show him how wonderful it is to be married to the right woman and raising your family.
Well, my wife & I have been married for seven years. He was in my wedding. He knows how happy marriage has made me, but I don't think it's that. I am afraid he is limiting his options. Jewish or not, narrowing your field of visions prevents the ability to see important things all around you. He may be missing the right girls because they aren't Jewish. I know he does the Jdate thing and the Jewish singles clubs but he says the girls never make it past the second date. Fear of commitment or very picky?
very picky and not ready-when he is ready and he knows it-boom-he will do it-trust me on this-I have seen it happen too many times with men that I know in their 30s-the closer they get to 40-the harder they will fall and fast-don't worry about your friend!
If you think he is genuine about being happy, why worry?
"Like MySpace, only more arrogant"
whatever...live and let live. you know the epitome of accomplishments in life is not getting hitched. some people just don't need that to be happy.
There's NOTHING wrong with being single at 34. I'd let it go if I were you.
34 is the new 24, baby!
lol WLG.
"Like MySpace, only more arrogant"
Oh Griffen, you are so sweet. I'm 38 and married but, I have met quite of number of men throughout my life that were 34 or older that were still single. I think he is probably scared of commitment, and he probably really would like to meet a Jewish girl. If you happen to come across a Jewish girl, I would definitely try to introduce them, and then let them take it from there. Otherwise, don't worry. Btw., he is lucky to have such a good friend in you.
P.S. Also, I think he is very particularly, and there is nothing wrong with that. Lord knows I was, too.
as long as he is happy and comfortable with his life then no worries
i once dated a Jewish guy then realized it really wasn't gonna go anywhere. Marriage isn't for everyone,i ended up marrying someone else but the marriage only lasted 3years
now i'm back in the dating scene and feel great ! not looking into marriage anytime soon but open to having
a nice solid relationship 
I don't believe that anyone should get married until they're ready. If it takes you until you're 42 years old then so be it. You can't take a chance on your happiness because your friends and family tell you to hurry up and get married, male or female.
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